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Post by sleepflower on Dec 18, 2007 12:21:01 GMT -5
Take all the time and the space you need, sweetie. I could relate so well to your post, not being a person who opens up to people, posting then deleting it, feeling that you should make others happy even at your own expense...I could have written all that. I understand how you're feeling and I send you all the love and support that I can. You made a lot of sense, and although I wish you didn't have to feel like that, I'm glad you posted and hope it helped you, even just a little bit. Have a good Christmas, Thumper, although I hope we'll see you back again before that. If you are taking a break, I'll miss you! xxx
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Post by lyly on Dec 18, 2007 12:38:41 GMT -5
it s not anything who comes in one day ... take your time dear ^^ feel free .. i mean .. don t worry ..here is a special place ...
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Post by ghost on Dec 18, 2007 13:22:49 GMT -5
thumper.. first of all i know just how it feels to live in fear of making mistakes.. i feel i make them right and left and am ocd about trying to find and cover them before anyone notices or i inadvertantly hurt someone by it.. we are so very human.. that's all.. and although i've known pete a while so i know his suggestion wasn't said in any mean way, i know what it's like to have no skin at all and to take things so hard.. let me tell you how well i know, if you will indulge me posting here in your place a bit? (i guess if we don't want replies in our isolation areas we'll just need to ask for that here, huh? ) i met pete over at another site and there were several of us newbies who got friendly there and got quite chatty.. i was somewhat used to support forums as i'd been a regular on several si/ed support boards and i thought i was doing ok.. then there was a rash of the old time posters who began to resent us newbs and railed against us.. complaining among other things how ridiculously chatty we were (imagine us.. Socializing! ) and changing topics in threads!!! posting in the wrong place!!!!!! well, we got blasted and i got that same awful feeling of being put right in My 'place'.. i went off to my little ghost blog and cut like 15/16x.. and that was the beginning of why we started our own little board like this one.. (it went through a couple incarnations with others starting it before i finally got brave..) so that is exactly why i want no policing here/rules and why safety is my big thing.. because i know for myself it's the hardest thing for us to feel.. trust is always so mercurial flying away just when we start to think we are near it.. i'd rather have a safe board no matter how loosely organized posts are than a cold unsafe one thats very tidy.. the whole point is to allow people all the space they need.. you still are always welcome to post in my snowcave.. and anyone else can too.. it gets cold there and i like the company.. now.. who is the one that stopped me from slipping up ages ago and suggested to me that we get into halloween? that turned me around in such a bad place, thumper! and the whole board has benefited.. now with the xmas countdown thread too.. it really has brought us together.. i've seen you offer so much to others as well.. i hope you will be able to lean on us more too.. you have been there for me with kindness and genuine help when i needed it over and over again.. no matter what you say you are such a good and sensitive, caring person.. i hope we hear more from you soon.. i'd miss you if you stay away.. ghost
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Post by ghost on Dec 18, 2007 13:47:49 GMT -5
snic.. hey, look what comes up at the top now! Thumper Massagers - Sale Unbeatable Prices on All Thumpers. Free Same Day Ship. Shop & Save. www.sitincomfort.com/Massagers hehe
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Post by sleepflower on Jan 9, 2008 10:18:20 GMT -5
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Post by ghost on Jan 9, 2008 14:34:54 GMT -5
thumper i'm exalting you for your efforts.. my hubby has back/hip problems and we've had him on the floor so i know the scene.. and when the guys are sick we have to be the one to rise above.. sick or no, and keep everyone tended to, isn't that always the case? i feel for ya.. ghost
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Post by sleepflower on Jan 11, 2008 3:54:24 GMT -5
Hooray for your sparkly exalt mood! Sorry I haven't been around much - thanks for asking how things are going (and you too ghost in one of the other posts.) Quick update - not great. Still waiting for therapy, and will probably be waiting for quite a while. Meds doing nothing. Should really make another doc's appt today (I have the day off work to do the studying that I should have been doing all week but couldn't concentrate) but...you know me - Hope o/h is doing OK Thumper. Look after yourself, too. That's the most important thing. to everyone.
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Post by sleepflower on Jan 11, 2008 6:44:09 GMT -5
Thanks sweetie, exalted right back, you sparkley little ray of sun you! Glad o/h can move about now, but flu is horrible, isn't it? Try the juice of half a lemon in a mug, with a couple of slices of fresh root ginger, topped up with boiling water...soothing and good for you too! (Psst - later tonight I'll let you add a splash of whisky if you want!) Therapy letter didn't come today either...bleh. I've taken the day off work as holiday and I've managed to do quite a lot this morning, which makes a change. Might even venture to the supermarket this afternoon...perhaps not...
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Post by ghost on Jan 16, 2008 14:03:58 GMT -5
i'm here if you need anyone to talk to.. ghost i'm off to run an errand.. but please know if you ever need someone to talk to, to rant about hating the inhumans, anything, i am around.. you can come over and post in the comments on my blog even if i'm not here, ok? www.friendlyghost.typepad.comhope you start to feel better soon..
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Post by sleepflower on Jan 16, 2008 14:56:13 GMT -5
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Post by ghost on Jan 17, 2008 15:34:30 GMT -5
thumper.. sorry you had a bad encounter with an inhuman! i hope you regain a place where you can feel safe.. but until then.. to hell with the humans, i say! f*&@ 'em.. take back your safe place.. that's what is most important.. don't let them make you crazy.. i hate when my mind races that way.. i try to calm myself by thinking of it this way, it is like trying to run your emotions through your brain/thoughts, rather than feel them.. it just gets all confused.. with me i am most worried about what i say during those times.. i apologize over and over never knowing why really.. and in my head i tell myself 'let your mind race, not your mouth'.. afraid others will see me as a basketcase.. it worries me too.. so please take heart.. it's safe to post here, even if you ramble and rant and curse.. (i do it all the time.. ) if you need to stay in your house for a while before braving the cold cruel world again, there's nothing wrong with that! i'm behind the couch half the time.. lol take care, ghost
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Post by ghost on Jan 18, 2008 14:31:26 GMT -5
sounds like a plan, thumper.. the only friend i have with bipolar symptoms i believe was taking depakote? wish i could remember if she said it was working well or not.. sorry.. ghost
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Post by sleepflower on Jan 21, 2008 12:21:34 GMT -5
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Post by ghost on Jan 21, 2008 13:17:04 GMT -5
i'm also always afraid they won't listen to me.. or since i'm agoraphobic they dismiss whatever i tell them to anxiety.. good luck! ghost
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Post by sleepflower on Jan 21, 2008 16:04:35 GMT -5
they just dont get us..... You're very right there, Thumper, but you were far braver than I could ever be. I'd have been too wet to insist on anything - exalted for bravery once again. Hope your appointment comes through quickly. You're a star sparkley! xxxx
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