Post by ashley on Apr 12, 2008 3:16:18 GMT -5
Hi
I read a lot of separation anxiety literature on people with their partners...but mine's with my mum. I'm 20. Has anyone else got this issue?
I have anxiety in general so it's a vicious cycle I guess. I'm an only child in a single parent family and we're best friends.
I don't have any friends as such. I'm pretty sure I've alienated them in the years since high school by being 'busy' every time they organised something (because I'd prefer to be home with mum). I have some acquaintances from uni, but I just don't 'click' with a lot of people and find it difficult to make friends (possibly because I'm constantly comparing them with the one person who's been there my whole life).
I don't drink and thus don't go out to clubs/nightclubs. Plus, I don't like the thought of mum being home on her own. Come to think of it, she doesn't have any relationships outside work and hasn't for as long as I've been around. I was a jealous child, so I hope I haven't scared her off people all together!!
I've never had any 'relationships' because I'm just not interested. It's at the point where I can't sleep in my room because I'm worried what could happen during the night. Does it get better with time? Throughout my childhood I had trouble with sleeping in my own room (it might even just be that I don't like being alone), but I've been sleeping in her rooms on and off since childhood.
I haven't been to any counselling or anything, but I thought I'd try here. I'm constantly worrying what I'd do if something happened to her. My world would fall apart. Even sometimes when we're together, I think how 'off' I'd be without her. I really hate my mind and the fact I'm even having these thoughts.
Can anyone provide any joy?
I read a lot of separation anxiety literature on people with their partners...but mine's with my mum. I'm 20. Has anyone else got this issue?
I have anxiety in general so it's a vicious cycle I guess. I'm an only child in a single parent family and we're best friends.
I don't have any friends as such. I'm pretty sure I've alienated them in the years since high school by being 'busy' every time they organised something (because I'd prefer to be home with mum). I have some acquaintances from uni, but I just don't 'click' with a lot of people and find it difficult to make friends (possibly because I'm constantly comparing them with the one person who's been there my whole life).
I don't drink and thus don't go out to clubs/nightclubs. Plus, I don't like the thought of mum being home on her own. Come to think of it, she doesn't have any relationships outside work and hasn't for as long as I've been around. I was a jealous child, so I hope I haven't scared her off people all together!!
I've never had any 'relationships' because I'm just not interested. It's at the point where I can't sleep in my room because I'm worried what could happen during the night. Does it get better with time? Throughout my childhood I had trouble with sleeping in my own room (it might even just be that I don't like being alone), but I've been sleeping in her rooms on and off since childhood.
I haven't been to any counselling or anything, but I thought I'd try here. I'm constantly worrying what I'd do if something happened to her. My world would fall apart. Even sometimes when we're together, I think how 'off' I'd be without her. I really hate my mind and the fact I'm even having these thoughts.
Can anyone provide any joy?
