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Post by ghost on Sept 17, 2008 22:00:28 GMT -5
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Post by ghost on Sept 17, 2008 22:22:56 GMT -5
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Post by ghost on Sept 17, 2008 22:47:22 GMT -5
another good site: www.therelationshipcommunity.com/index.htmlsome of the best in the 'experts directory'.. worth clicking on this for info on john bradshaw, leo buscalia, harville hendrix & others.. (books, highlights.. etc..) ghost |
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Post by ghost on Nov 16, 2008 19:42:33 GMT -5
i just saw harville hendrix on tv here in portland where he's re-releasing the 20th anniversary edition of 'getting the love you want' a great book for couples! one of the simplest and most helpful things HH teaches is imago dialogue technique or 'mirroring'.. probably the best, easiest skill to learn to really help with any communication problems, even between parent/child, friend/friend, etc.. the idea is to be a mirror to your partner/other when they are trying to communicate something important to you, you listen and repeat or paraphrase back exactly what they have told you, asking them if you are getting it right, if not you do it again until you have fully heard what the other person is communicating.. then you ask for further detail and mirror again.. it teaches you to actually hear where the other person is coming from exactly, rather than dismissing or misunderstanding the other's reality.. it helps you learn to respect the other's position and meets their need to truly be heard and acknowledged.. in isreal children were taught this technique and in school they ask their teachers to mirror them, it is so effective that some think it's how we were truly meant to communicate, before fear caused us to go into defensive mode..  here's a link: gettingtheloveyouwant.com/articles/imago_dialogue.htmlghost |
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