Post by ghost on Jan 16, 2007 20:09:32 GMT -5
there's a couple of things i've heard so many times that i as an ad person just don't think are necessarily so.. and i wonder what others here think?
when dealing with addictions, eating disorders, self-injury..
how many times have i heard that you need to 'hit bottom' before you can get better? i don't think that's necessarily so..
i just don't think that's a good message to put out there..
i think people can get themselves back on track without having to make the mistake of waiting till they've lost everything dear to them.. especially if they have support and hear accounts of what's down the road from others dealing with the same problems..
personally i come from a family of alcoholics and have gone in and out of 'problem drinking' since starting as a kid.. quit several times.. once for like 13 years? i don't know for certain whether i am an alcoholic or not.. i just know it has gotten bad enough to do damage to my health and i've been forced to stop.. i still have strong urges.. but i don't necessarily think it would be wise for me to assume i'm not until it becomes apparent i am and it's too late, you know?
with my eating disorder i ran the risk of killing myself off at one point but with help i edged myself back into a healthier place an inch at a time after years of starvation and associated health problems.. i still deal with this every day.. but i never did go into a hospital because i wouldn't leave my kitties and guys..
which brings me to my second point:
how many times have i heard that when it comes to recovery (from said addiction/self-destructive problem..) that you 'have to do it for you.. not for anyone else..'? that's not necessarily so either, in my opinion.. and i wonder if this is perhaps a manifestation of attachment issues that others would understand.. because if i'd had to do it for me, i'd be dead.. even to this day i cannot bring motivation enough out of the crater of not caring enough about/for myself to do it.. it had to be for my son.. for my kitties.. for my marriage.. even for my therapist if it meant anything at all to her.. it had to be for someone else.. then i just care enough to make headway.. is this ad?
if i had to base my efforts to recover on caring about myself.. doing it for myself.. i'd be cutting today.. and drinking and starving despite the consequences..
i say we latch onto whatever works for us..
if no one else understands that i am here for my cats.. that's ok.. but that's what keeps me going.. that's my connection.. swear to god..
ghost
119 days no s.i.
477 days no alcohol
when dealing with addictions, eating disorders, self-injury..
how many times have i heard that you need to 'hit bottom' before you can get better? i don't think that's necessarily so..
i just don't think that's a good message to put out there..
i think people can get themselves back on track without having to make the mistake of waiting till they've lost everything dear to them.. especially if they have support and hear accounts of what's down the road from others dealing with the same problems..
personally i come from a family of alcoholics and have gone in and out of 'problem drinking' since starting as a kid.. quit several times.. once for like 13 years? i don't know for certain whether i am an alcoholic or not.. i just know it has gotten bad enough to do damage to my health and i've been forced to stop.. i still have strong urges.. but i don't necessarily think it would be wise for me to assume i'm not until it becomes apparent i am and it's too late, you know?
with my eating disorder i ran the risk of killing myself off at one point but with help i edged myself back into a healthier place an inch at a time after years of starvation and associated health problems.. i still deal with this every day.. but i never did go into a hospital because i wouldn't leave my kitties and guys..
which brings me to my second point:
how many times have i heard that when it comes to recovery (from said addiction/self-destructive problem..) that you 'have to do it for you.. not for anyone else..'? that's not necessarily so either, in my opinion.. and i wonder if this is perhaps a manifestation of attachment issues that others would understand.. because if i'd had to do it for me, i'd be dead.. even to this day i cannot bring motivation enough out of the crater of not caring enough about/for myself to do it.. it had to be for my son.. for my kitties.. for my marriage.. even for my therapist if it meant anything at all to her.. it had to be for someone else.. then i just care enough to make headway.. is this ad?
if i had to base my efforts to recover on caring about myself.. doing it for myself.. i'd be cutting today.. and drinking and starving despite the consequences..
i say we latch onto whatever works for us..
if no one else understands that i am here for my cats.. that's ok.. but that's what keeps me going.. that's my connection.. swear to god..
ghost
119 days no s.i.
477 days no alcohol