clover
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Post by clover on Apr 7, 2007 17:28:11 GMT -5
HI Everyone! Just thought I'd start a thread for anyone that likes to read..... what are you reading now? what is your most favorite book/s? do you have a favorite author? I'm currently reading a very large book-- it's actually 3 books put into one-- The whole thing is called "Heritage of Lancaster County" by Beverly Lewis-- containing three novels, I've read the first one-- The Shunning--- very interesting to read about the Pennsylvania Amish and their ways-- now I'm starting the 2nd part/novel-- The Confession........ well, I'll get back to the other two questions at a later time...... hope to hear from some other readers  clover |
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Post by ghost on Apr 7, 2007 22:56:16 GMT -5
hey clover! i used to be such a bookworm it was ridiculous! but these days i've been into books about attachment disorder mostly.. the 'litstorm' link on the other thread here is cool.. i have some of my library there.. it's a new thing they're offering free as a sort of alpha test to see how people like it.. it makes it pretty easy to put in your own library of books, music and movies.. and then it matches you up with others that share your interests so you can see what they have in their libraries.. you get the idea..  i also like to collect vintage children's books.. my favorite authors are salinger, tolkien & lewis carroll.. ghost |
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Post by clover on Apr 10, 2007 15:45:41 GMT -5
Oh!! ghost thank you for pointing out that other post-- I'm sorry I didn't see it before! duh!!  I haven't read any books on attachment disorder, I'll have to look into that! I'm reading a book about mental disorders and how they could be all caused by family dynamics and not biological at all. It's very interesting. (it's called-- ahem-- sorry for the cursing here but it's the title: "They F*** You Up, how to survive family life"..... the title does literally have the asterisks in it. written by Oliver James) I often read two or three books at one time-- like now I'm reading three different books. that's cool you like children's books-- was wondering-- did you read a lot as a child? thanks ghost, for your reply!! ---anyone else out there reading or like to read?  ? clover |
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Post by ghost on Apr 11, 2007 22:15:12 GMT -5
to answer your question did i read as a kid, clover.. in a word.. bookworm! tolkien, c.s.lewis, lewis carroll, nancy drew & hardy boys, mysteries, sci fi, fantasy, historical novels, stephen king, horror, anything i could get my hands on basically.. as an adult i've read alot in the self-help/psychology category.. i recommend john bradshaw.. as pete has before.. i liked 'on the family' and 'homecoming:healing & championing your inner child' as well as 'creating love' and 'healing the shame that binds you' also 'family secrets'.. alice miller's 'the drama of the gifted child' is really good harville hendrix' 'getting the love you want' is classic/good there's a really good/funny book john cleese (of monty python fame) co-wrote with a friend who is a psychiatrist.. wish i could remember the name.. it's older and maybe hard to find now? dunno.. oh yeah! it's called 'families: and how to survive them' hehe.. i've read lots on the subject of self-injury since i've been dealing with it so long.. best on that subject are 'the scarred soul' tracy alderman.. 'a bright red scream' marilee strong & 'cutting' steven levenkron.. also i've read several books on anorexia/eating disorder.. i can't remember the last fiction i read? oh.. i know.. i re-read conrad aiken's 'silent snow, secret snow' one of my favorites of all time.. i love books.. ghost |
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Post by clover on May 2, 2007 15:24:52 GMT -5
Just wanted to tell you guys that the book that Oliver James wrote that I'm reading-- the one I mentioned in my second post on this thread...(he's a psychologist in the UK), anyway he explains four types of "attachment" with regards to people...
1. The Avoidant Pattern: I am comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me.
2. The Clinger Pattern: I want to be competely emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I sometimes worry that others don't value me as much as I value them.
3. The Wobbler Pattern: I am somewhat uncomfortable getting close to others. I want emotionally close relationships, but I find it difficult to trust others. I sometimes worry I will be hurt if I become too close to others.
4. The Secure Pattern: It is relatively easy for me to become emotionally close to others. I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me. I don't worry about being alone or having others not accept me.
So..... do you see yourself in any of those 4 patterns? The "Wobbler" is actually the Clinger mixed with the Avoidant-- where one can have both patterns. Mr. James says that 50% of people are of the "Secure" Pattern...... not sure if I agree with that percentage--- that would mean half of all humans have some sort of attachment struggle!?!? That sounds too high to me.... but then.... I've never done any studies.... just seems that so many people are at ease with others compared to me.
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